Season's Greetings Reader,

This week’s story lesson comes from The Family Stone, which is one of my favorite holiday movies. I sit down to watch it on December 1st every single year.

It hits a little differently this year, with the passing of Diane Keaton, who played the beloved matriarch, Sybil. As heartwarming as it is frustrating, the story in this film reveals what happens when perfection becomes a wall instead of a bridge.

Meredith joins her boyfriend Everett for Christmas with his large, close-knit family. The family has seemingly already made up their minds about Meredith before she ever sets foot in the door. From the moment Meredith arrives, she’s desperate to fit in, and it’s painfully obvious. Yet, everything she does backfires spectacularly. The more she tries to prove she belongs, the more they seem to hate her, and the more she cements her status as an outsider. It’s truly one faux pas after the next.

In one quiet, accidental moment of redemption, she gives a print of a photograph to each member of the family, and everyone is rendered speechless for just a moment. Meredith had the gift made because she believed it was a photograph of Sybil pregnant with Everett. In reality, it’s Amy, the sister who is determined to keep Meredith on the outside. Both Sybil and Amy recognize and appreciate the tender gesture. Suddenly, Meredith is not an outsider anymore.

She becomes one of them, if only for a moment.

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For storytellers and speakers, Meredith’s arc is a mirror.

So many of us build armor out of polish: rehearsed transitions, perfect posture, tight delivery, solid messaging, because we want to be seen as credible and professional. But too much polish creates distance. It reeks of “pick me” energy and makes us unrelatable.

The moment when your voice wobbles, when you lose your place, when you tell the story that still makes your throat tighten—that’s when people truly connect.

The goal isn’t to deliver flawlessly. It’s to be felt deeply. Connection doesn’t come from perfection; it comes from the courage to let people see your humanness in all of it.

Try this:

Think of a story you tell often. You know, that one you’ve perfected to the point it’s almost nauseating. How can you make it just a little less perfect?

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Until next week,